We know Mother’s Day can be an exceedingly difficult day for bereaved families. It’s not just the day in question either, is it? There’s a constant bombardment of Mother’s Day adverts, emails, social media posts – even the shops being flooded with cards and gifts can be a painful reminder that your loved one won’t be there.
What to do on Mother’s Day in these circumstances will be unique for every family. If you want to avoid the day entirely and switch off from social media, that’s completely understandable! Some people like to use it as a day of remembrance for their loved one. Whatever you decide, there are some steps you can take before and on the day to help support your child.
Ways to support your child on Mother’s Day
Speak to your child’s school and find out in advance if they will be taking part in any activities to mark the day. Ask your child’s teacher to speak to your child in advance about any activities planned and give your child the choice to take part or opt out.
Consider possible triggers. You could choose to watch streamed TV so you can avoid adverts that may focus on Mother’s Day or perhaps consider avoiding shops with Mother’s Day displays.
Find ways to remember. If it feels right for your child, they could make or write a Mother’s Day card and fill it with their thoughts and memories of their Mum. This could then be put in a memory box, by their grave or displayed at home.
Have a simple act of memorial. This could be lighting a candle, planting bulbs, making a favourite meal, baking a favourite cake, watching a favourite film, or going to a special place – there are some more ideas below.
Take moments to remember. Your child does not necessarily need to spend a whole remembering their Mum. This could be emotionally exhausting and difficult for them. Take small moments throughout the day, this may be easier for your children to manage.
Be kind to yourself. Do what feels right for you. This may mean a quiet duvet day or a day with friends and family. You will know what feel right for you and your child.
Seek Support. Mother’s Day can be a particularly hard day for bereaved Mums too. For support to manage the day if you are a grieving Mum then please contact us on our helpline.
Remembering your loved one on Mother’s Day
For anyone struggling to cope this Mother’s Day, our helpline is open Monday – Friday, 9.30am – 12.30pm. Call 01342 313895 if you need support or advice. We help children and their families in Surrey, Sussex and Kent through the loss of a loved one. There are also some emergency contacts if you need them, just click right here.